Seeking advice or validation ??

Seeking advice ?Search yourself my friend .Perhaps its not advice you seek !Perhaps you want acceptance of the decisions you chose .Perhaps your mind doubts its choice or why would you try to convince others .

If you are sure of yourself there is no need of advice ,no need of validation. Be strong be willing to stand for your belief and face the consequences .

The first step to success is to “believe in yourself” !!

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Why is life so challenging ?

Life is so challenging nowadays with increased population , education and jobs have become difficult and more competitive .Things are more difficult for the youngsters in the current scenario.

As i look back to my younger years(30years back ) , i recollect that we had much more free time available .Perhaps technology was not advanced hence knowledge and distractions were less. We were less stressed whether it was education or job. And ofcourse families were more emotionally connected .

Now we have bigger developed cities , better vehicles but commuting is an ordeal with traffic jams and long distances.

Come to think of it even relationships have become complex .Marriages are a big affair with more controversy in relationships. Maybe advancement comes with its own price .Perhaps progress has made us more knowledgable and reduced our emotional balance .

The Beginning of the Happy Ending.

In my younger years i always wondered about the future .Being married to a husband with a white collar job who had lost his father in his childhood there was not much of backup or call it inheritance .Life was tough with two kids money was always just enough .I picked up teaching jobs many times but due to my husband’s transfers i could not have a permanent job

Anyhow the services gave us an exposure and a dreamy lifestyle .We would attend parties and also dance events hoisted in the services club .There would be Xmas celebrations for the kids with Santa distributing presents etc. The kids also learnt social etiquettes in true Naval tradition

However it was a challenging life with frequent inter-state transfers ,changing of schools ,houses and infact the whole setup as well as neighbourhood.

During holidays we would visit our native place and were surprised to see all other family members living life of luxury .No idea where and how they managed but we realized that inspite of our class one status we were infact not at all wealthy .

Years passed by ,we kept going ,guiding ,disciplining our children and teaching them the value of money .

Now after retirement it seems God has blessed us a wealth that is rare .Both my children now busy with their jobs but attached to family value system .

Some endings are happier than the beginnings and sometimes prosperity comes to the less wealthy.

Purpose of life ??

There are so many posts and quotes on the purpose of human life sometimes contradicting each other that got me thinking. Perhaps the purpose of life maybe different for different persons.Or different phases of life have different purposes .

Anyhow after experiencing many ups and downs in life what i realized is that a balance between fulfilling responsibilities and enjoying life is a must .One always has choices in life but our decisions and choices have a consequence which we have to undergo .

Hence i guess pupose of our life is to remain humble ,help others ,fulfil responsiblities and enjoy whatever life offers us.

About relatives & family 😀

Learning to accept flaws of people who geniunely love and care for you can be a difficult task .But some relationships are precious and once one develops an attitude of understanding and patience a calmness takes over .The relationship becomes stronger .

Sometimes others cannot see your perspective for their opinoins are formed by their experiences and different exposure .

Patience and tolerance are keys to healthy relationships !

Its time to let go !

Yup time has come to let go of attachments . I chose to remain connected but focus on myself . There comes a time when one gets freedom from responsiblities and once again can focus on evolving the self .

The more we chose to free others the more free we become .And the greater the freedom the happier we feel

Goals achieved and freedom calls !